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gender. what’s to decide?

Did you ever think of keeping your child’s sex a secret because you wanted them to have freedom of choice? Maybe you’ve heard of the Canadian couple who did. I saw it on the MSN homepage and had to check it out.
On, Rachel Elbaum writes, “They got the idea to raise a genderless child from a book they found in the library, and told the (Toronto Star) the secrecy is about giving their children freedom.” The family also said they, “Noticed that parents make so many choices for their children. It’s obnoxious.” The couple allows their other two sons free reign when it comes to choosing hair styles and clothing, making a preference for neither gender.

Parents have gone overboard when it comes to letting children make their own decisions. Many give them choices for everything. I don’t mind giving choices once in a while, but there are times in life when there isn’t more than one option. They will grow up and be forced to live in a world where they have to obey laws. Laws don’t give us choices. You may choose to use your blinker, or you can choose to swerve into the other lane without giving notice. I just don’t think the police officer who pulls this person over is going to understand that they were simply making a choice.

Except for the small percentage of the population born without definite sexual parts, most of us come into the world with either male or female genitalia. There’s no question which one we are. Sure, some may struggle with preferences, such as, boys may play with dolls, girls may love running trucks through the mud. Many times this is just a predilection, not inferring anything else.

When I heard about these parents letting a child decide (its) gender, I was shocked. He is what he is. She is what she is. This has nothing to do with decisions or feelings a person has in regards to their sexual inclinations. That will come later, not when they are an infant, or even two or three. In my opinion they are setting this child up for confusion, but I’m sure this isn’t the only area where this is happening.


May 26, 2011 at 3:23 am Leave a comment

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