kindness 101 – what we can learn from a child

The words “outgoing” and “friendly” describe my daughter, Pumpkin, to a tee. This comes as a bewilderment to her mother who is an introvert.
Pumpkin loves going to the library, and the one I chose happened to have a large play area in the middle of the children’s book section. She was busy looking at all the cool toys when some kids and their mom came to play.
Pumpkin waved and said, “Hi.”
That was okay with me. Saying “hi” was a nice gesture, and I like that she’s friendly.
Pumpkin decided that she wanted to look at some books near the newcomers. She headed over there and as she walked by, she added, “My name is Pumpkin.”
The mom was caught slightly off guard, but she smiled and said, “Hi Pumpkin.”
I found myself a little embarrassed, because like I said, I am an introvert. I would like to divert any attention away from myself.
Soon Pumpkin was standing next to a large wooden car which another girl was driving. They were smiling at each other, but not saying much.
This girl’s sister showed up and said, “Allison it’s time to go.”
The girl hopped out of the car and said, “Bye,” as she skipped away.
Pumpkin had a confused look cross over her face. “When Allison coming back?”
I thought it was so sweet that she wanted to know when this girl, whom she hadn’t spoken to, or met before, was coming back. In those moments sitting in the libraries play area I wanted my life to be more like that of my daughters. I wanted adults to be friendlier towards each other. We can learn a lot from little kids. They are unashamed to be kind and talk to strangers.
I have to find a balance with my children in teaching them to be friendly to others, yet be aware of “stranger danger.” I am not sure where that balance is, but I hope that I can foster friendliness in my kids.
A smile never hurt anyone. =)